> hey ████! consent check: may Abe and I bump your salary up to [11.35% increase]?
> haha there's also an implied assumption of consent to the question on my part 😄 you can also say "I do not want to evaluate that question", in which case I'll just kick that in for the next paycheck without you feeling forced into rigamarole 😂
> ahhh now I understand why people say "can I ask if xyz?" rather than just asking "xyz?"
I think this is what Spirited Away's whole mutual-acknowledgement-of-shared-understanding-thing was about
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me
> heyo, can I ask you to take support this weekend?
████
> Yes for sure no problem
me
> autism fully engaged, while also leaning on our relationship:
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> am reading this as "yes you can ask" and simultaneously also in response to the question itself "yes I will take it", and I am proceeding with that understanding :)
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> while also making sure (for my sake if not also for yours) to give you a [rollback] button in the event that your intent was somehow only a "yes you can ask" and not also a "yes I will take it", which would be a wild left turn but I'm totally here for it
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> (hahahaha can you tell I've been mapping out consciousness patterns really explicitly lately 😂)
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> thank you!! (pending your use of the rollback button, in which case, thank you for that too! lol)
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see also: 'evens', because it seems like "can I ask if x" *creates* that double-wrapped discovery. like, "hey, is it safe for us to examine the question of you doing this, or would observing question directly cause you damage?"