> I like to have things rock solid so I can just leave them and relax, if something is flakey I can't really forget about it
makes sense. I think I'm used to my neurology being flakey as a baseline, so as long as the external flakey thing is something that I'm skin-to-skin with it's the same as baseline for me, doesn't cost me anything I haven't already optimized myself to pay
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"skin-to-skin" is important. I only have so much skin, and I gotta be able to move, on account of the aforementioned flakey neurology. there's something like a fixed-point optimum here, for me, the place where my strange attractor of a self centers, and I think I'm there. I test every morphism I can find, and this one has held through all of them. and I'm gay and autistic and ex-religious and transconscious and accidentally a CEO and polyamorous and I didn't know any of those things until it was too late to brace for the knowing