the choice to center *over* self
there's depth there, a z-axis, lining up from altitude
"self-centered" is a phrase that's easy to flatten, easy to read as a two-dimensional pejorative. it's a kind of off-by-one abstraction error. did you know those occur on axes you can't see? it's true!
let me give you an example with depth intact:
my sister recognizes herself as "basically honey"
the substance of honey *can't* center on itself, can't help itself. what would that mean? honey is liquid sunshine, latent and potent
can't be honey *to honey*, but -
- but she can be honey to the girl that's located where she is :)
if she is simultaneously the girl *and* honey, she'll either dole herself out or get eaten. that happened, and I *think* it can be described as an off-by-one abstraction error.
*but*: if she locates the girl that's located where she is, embodied, en scène, and is honey *to her*, then together they become something like a honey-maker, a place where honey *emerges*, as if from a hidden dimension :) 🐝🐝🐝